Why Affirmations Do Not Work (Part 2): Aversions
In continuation of my previous article Why Affirmations Do Not Work and How to Make Them Work (Part 1), I will talk today about a frequently omitted, yet very important reason why affirmations do not work as well as how to correct that using Spiritual Technologies. The information covered in this newsletter can make you a master of affirmations when you start practicing the below-mentioned suggestions.
In my previous article, I explained that attachment to the outcome prevents an affirmation or intention from manifesting and provided instructions on how to melt away that attachment using the Spiritual Technology Basic PEAT.
If you have not yet downloaded the eBook manual on the Basic PEAT “How to Make a Leap in Consciousness?”, you can do so by joining my mailing list or by following the link provided in any of my newsletters.
In this article, I will talk about the opposite force that can also prevent affirmations or intentions from manifesting, more so than the attachments. This opposite force is aversions. Aversions are elusive and hard to verbalize because they are often buried deep in the subconscious. They can be experienced as an uncomfortable clutching feeling in the body. Aversions are our fears, doubts, or limiting beliefs that create an energetic resistance that neutralizes the vibration of a certain affirmation regardless of how powerful and positive it may be.
For example, if you secretly begrudge working in an office and having a boss, then having an affirmation about a successful job interview for an office job would be futile. Or similarly, if you secretly resent wealthy people, and have an affirmation to get an affluent client with a freelance project for you, you are blocking your own affirmation. You first need to address the resentments and fears about your past job / projects to neutralize your subconscious or conscious resistance and aversions.
Another form of aversion is a limiting belief. Any limiting belief is based on a past experience about which you carry an emotional memory. This emotional memory makes you feel and thus believe that your affirmation is not achievable or possible. In response, the Universe will match the vibration of your beliefs and will not manifest your desire.
Examples of Aversions
Based on the example from the previous article, where we used an affirmation about acing an important job interview, let us review some examples of aversions:
Even though you really want the job, and you are intending to ace the job interview, you may feel and think consciously or subconsciously:
• “Once I get this job, I will have more responsibilities than I can handle.”
• “I fear that I am not qualified to do this job.”
• “I fear that they will reject me.”
• “I fear that I will have to work more than before, and my family and friends will not be happy about that.”
• “I fear that with this new job I will earn more money, and my friends and family will be jealous or resentful of me.”
• “I fear that this job may take me away from what I really want to do in life.”
• “Bosses are always full of themselves and dumber than I am. I will end up hating my new boss.”
• “I do not believe it is possible.”
• “It didn’t happen previously.”
• “I saw, heard, or know that other people applied for this job and didn’t get it.”
Discovering Elusive Aversions
Typically, aversions do not float on the surface of our minds. I theorize it is because they are unpleasant to think about, and we tend to suppress them. Therefore, you may need to do some introspective work to uncover them. In this process, one important thing to remember is that we often feel aversions in our bodies, but struggle to put them into words. It is okay. You do not have to put them into words as long as you are aware of how you are experiencing them. When you work on discovering aversions, pay attention to what those feelings are, that is, how you experience your aversions. Does your body shrink, cringe, freeze, or do you get butterflies in your stomach from fear, doubts, or uncertainty? Notice where in your body you feel the aversion and if it has a shape (e.g. “a dark dense ball in my gut”).
The following exercise is helpful for identifying aversions expressed as thoughts or limiting beliefs.
Preparation: Relaxation Meditation
Before you start doing next exercise, you need to relax your mind a little. So, set a timer for 3-5 mins. Get into a comfortable sitting or supinated position. Close your eyes. Take 3 deep breaths, and afterwards continue breathing naturally, while paying attention to your own breath. For the next 3-5 minutes, just observe your breath peacefully.
Exercise: Stream of Consciousness Writing (5 mins)
Set a timer for 5 minutes and write in a free-flow manner on the following questions:
- “Why wouldn’t I want or like my affirmation to manifest?”
- “If there’s part of me that wouldn’t want this affirmation to happen, what is that part thinking? For what purpose does that part not want my affirmation to manifest?”
After you are done with those questions, set the timer once again for 5 minutes, and answer another question in a free-flow manner :
- “Why don’t I believe or why do I doubt that my affirmation can manifest?”
Pointer: With any stream-of-consciousness writing, it is important to not review, edit or evaluate it in the process. The key is to just keep writing even if it appears like rambling. Moreover, it does not matter if it is grammatically incorrect: do not stop for spelling or capitalization. Keep writing even if you can not form complete sentences and only have keywords and phrases. The key is to capture your uninterrupted stream of consciousness.
Identify Elements of Perception
- After you did that, identify 3-5 most emotionally charged and complete thoughts in your writing.
- Rank these thoughts from the strongest in intensity to the weakest.
- Next to each written thought or belief, identify and write down the accompanying emotions/body sensations/images. This will help us later to release them really fast.
Pointer for identifying Emotions and Body Sensations: Imagine that affirmation has already manifested and notice any unpleasant feelings/discomfort/clutching in your body that it brings up. If this affirmation manifests, is there anything unpleasant that may occur – more responsibility, people’s opinion will change, are there any fears (fear of success, fear of failure, fear of change, fear of uncertainty)?
Neutralizing Aversions with Basic PEAT
Before Clearing Aversions
Before you start identifying your aversions, ask yourself the following question: “Based on how I feel now, how strongly do I believe that my affirmation will manifest on a scale from 0 to 10, 10 being absolutely certain?”
Write down this number. After you do the Basic PEAT process on your aversions, you will ask this question again and compare how your feelings and perceptions changed. You will be amazed by the results.
Neutralizing Aversions with Basic PEAT
Process your aversions one by one for better results, do not bulk them together.
Similarly to what you did with attachments, described in the previous article (“Why Affirmations Do Not Work And How To Make Them Work”), you need to identify all elements of perception that present themselves when you think about and feel your aversion. Usually the image element will be missing unless you have a clear image in your head that comes up with your aversion. But the other three – thought, emotion and body sensations – can be easily identified.
Let’s take the example from the previous article and do an aversion release using Basic PEAT.
Example
The affirmation: “I easily and effortlessly ace my job interview.”
After the free-flow writing exercise, I identified the following three most charged thoughts, doubts, and fears. I also identified the emotions, body sensations, and their intensity:
• “I fear that they will reject me.” (Emotions: fear/disappointment; Body Sensations: uncomfortable feeling in my stomach; Image: no image; Intensity: 8)
• “I fear that I am not qualified to do this job.” (Emotions: fear/panic/anxiety; Body sensations: heart racing; Image: I am fired; Intensity: 8)
• “I heard that my colleague had applied for this job and did not get it, so I doubt I could get it.” (Emotions: doubt/sadness; Image: no image; Body Sensations: heaviness in my chest; Intensity: 5)
So, using these elements we can now do a Basic PEAT process on each thought/doubt/fear until their respective intensity becomes 0 and they all melt away.
Pointer: if a couple or few emotions present themselves in association with a certain thought, choose the strongest one first, and do a complete Basic PEAT process on it; if you feel that the thought still has an emotional charge, do the process on the other emotions.
Example of a setup statement for the aversion Basic PEAT process:
Even though I fear that they will reject me and I have an uncomfortable feeling in my stomach, I deeply love and accept myself, my body, mind and personality, and the fact that I fear that they will reject me and I have an uncomfortable feeling in my stomach.
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After Clearing Aversions
After you cleared all aversions, ask yourself again: “Based on how I feel now, how strongly do I believe that my affirmation will manifest on a scale from 0 to 10, 10 being absolutely certain?”
Has the number increased from before? It usually does. But you can increase it even more with the following instructions on creating positive re-enforcement with Basic PEAT.
Positive Re-enforcement with Basic PEAT
Now that you have released your attachments and neutralized your aversions to your affirmation/intention, you can give it an extra boost of positive energy. What you do is repeat your affirmation, while focusing on the peaceful and positive emotions and images, while repeating your affirmation and breathing through each of the 6 acupressure points described in the Basic PEAT process. After you do this, you can again evaluate: “Based on how I feel now, how strongly do I believe that my affirmation will manifest on a scale from 0 to 10, 10 being absolutely certain?”. The number may increase even more, if it is not already 10.
